Many Christians have been taught that the best way to find your spouse is to stop looking – almost like trying to play reverse psychology on God. They think that if they want a spouse too badly, God won’t give it to them. But if they let it go and stop trying to find someone, then God will give it to them.
How will God tell you who to marry? What are the signs that God is highlighting your future spouse to you? And when you sense God revealing “the one” to you, what will that feel like?
Romantic love can either be biblical or worldly. It can be used to please God or displease him. It can either bring life to your heart or death.
How you spend your days will be how you spent your life.
You don’t have to try to waste your life. It will just happen all by itself. A meaningful life, however, will only be produced through intentionality. Success is never an accident.
Right from the start, I want to clarify that I’m not saying it’s wrong to ask God for specific qualities in a spouse. The Bible routinely calls us to ask God for things we desire (Matthew 7:7-11). For example:
Sexual sin is highly addictive, very common, and wildly destructive. It is one of the main outlets for our sinful flesh.
Ideally, in a healthy Christian marriage, a couple doesn’t t have to set boundaries with each other because they will naturally set healthy boundaries for themselves. The couple will respect the God-ordained boundaries we all know we should have for each other.
Were you connecting deeply with someone, but for some reason, things seem different now? Is this a trial you two need to push through, or is this the beginning of the end?
Are you just being overly cautious because you’ve been hurt in the past, or is God really trying to warn you about a woman?
Are you just being overly cautious because you’ve been hurt in the past, or is God really trying to warn you about a man? Even if he hasn’t done anything particularly evil against you, is it possible the Holy Spirit is trying to reveal something in your spirit?