If you’re a Christian man and you believe a woman may be interested in you, what should you actually do? Should you wait for her to make the first move? Should you immediately pursue her? Or will that come off as desperate? Will you scare her away if you act too soon or miss your chance if you wait too long? Should you just “let things happen naturally” or be more proactive?
The way you spend your days will be how you spend your life. While there are certainly moments in life that will determine a great deal, the biggest variable on what happens in your life is not a single moment or decision; rather, it’s the everyday choices you make.
Many Christians imagine that if God brings the right person into their life, the relationship will feel easy from the very beginning. While a healthy relationship should certainly have peace and joy, that doesn’t mean it will be free from challenges. In fact, some of the healthiest couples have had to work through unexpected difficulties that had nothing to do with whether they were meant to be together.
A lot of times, a single woman who wants to be married one day will think and pray so much about God sending her a man who pursues her that she often forgets to prepare herself to respond properly once a good man does start pursuing her.
If you want to know if you’re married to a narcissist, you will want to read my article called 4 Biblical Signs You Are Married to a Narcissist.
The Bible doesn’t use the word narcissist, but it certainly talks a lot about people who we would now label as narcissistic.
Many Christian men spend years praying for God to bring the right woman into their lives. But when a godly woman finally begins showing genuine interest, some men unintentionally sabotage the opportunity.
Before I get started, I want to make clear that this isn’t about blaming the church as if it’s the enemy. I’m also not saying that the primary purpose of church is to help people get married. Ultimately, the church is God’s idea, and its primary purpose is to proclaim the gospel, disciple Christians, and glorify God.
Are your motives for a relationship pure? Or are you struggling with idolizing relationships?
How will you know if God is telling you to move forward . . . or stay still?
Should you pursue that woman? Should you be more inviting towards that man? Should you just keep waiting for that career blessing, or do something more proactive?
The truth is, God’s will is often less mysterious than we make it. In Romans, for example, Paul gives us a powerful pattern for knowing when to go and when to wait.
Therefore, here are 5 ways to know if God is giving you a green light or a red light.